Breaking up with Facebook

It has been awhile since I posted here. I was bored and pondering things as usual….

At least once a month I observe someone “breaking up with Facebook”. These break up drama queens or kings rattle off numerous reasons as to why they are ending their relationship with this particular social media entity. The number one reason is “too much drama”. The, “idiots, rude people, political debates (more like arguing) and general ruckus becomes a load of drama too heavy for them to bare. Suddenly with ironic dramatic flair, the post proclaiming their either long hideous or complete break up smashes onto your computer screen, tab or mobile device.

We have all experienced the break up with social media post and are left with many questions. It would be safe to say that for about 75 percent of those witnessing the break up think, “Who fucking cares” and “Why did you feel the need to even make a post stating this? Just leave.” The other 25 percent are more than likely just nosy assholes desperate to know why so they respond with the usual, “What’s wrong?” question. .

Reading those insanely anti-climactic breaks up posts also leave me with questions. I am in the 75 percent but I also always find myself asking, how in the world can someone let social media become such a cesspool of suck ass that you cannot find joy in it anymore? It is Facebook. You can block people, unfollow people, ignore them, tell Facebook you don’t like that post/Ad and even report them. However, the last option kind of makes you a pussy and a douche bag but hey it is an option.

I think the problem those have with Facebook isn’t Facebook, it is them. If a person has drama in the personal life, I would almost guarantee that dramas flows onto all their social media outlets. It isn’t a mark to the evils and downfalls of social media more than the fact they can’t manage their life in a way that doesn’t involve drama. Drama isn’t always avoidable but like most things it isn’t what’s happening it’s how you deal with what’s happening.

I personally love social media. As a slightly anti-social person it is a great way to stay connected with others be it real life friends or strictly social media friends. I also find many of the memes, videos and other post to be hilarious. I get at least three or four genuine good laughs daily from either Facebook or Instagram. Maybe I social media responsibly. Everything I choose to view on these two apps is completely up to me other than the sponsored ads but I can manipulate those somewhat as well. Balance is key. I don’t want to make my page all puppy dogs and butterflies accepting a delusion. I have a few political pages I follow and other interest. Another key factor to finding social media happiness is to question everything you see especially if it is an article of any kind about anything. The responsibilities of using Facebook as a reliable news source is something for another blog post.
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Falling victim to the big media blindfold scam….

I read an article today talking about the increasing decline in salary for your median wage earners. So afterwards, I searched around and read more about it. Naturally the 1% – 15%’ers had an increase in salary the highest earning 1% seeing the most. The lower to mid income earners saw a salary decrease of 36%. That is mind blowing but not surprising and far from new “news”. It was a welcome smack to the head reminder that I have yet again falling victim to the sinister derailing tactics of the wonderful media mafia. Damn it, it worked, echoed around inside my brain! Over the last week, the Israel and Gaza conflict captured my gaze and sucked me in completely submerging into the debate and drama of it all. This conflict deserves my attention but I also need to focus on the corruption, greed, inequality and class war that is quietly building in my own country.

Countries fighting civil wars, missing plans, Ebola and the like all pulling the wool over the issues that currently plague the US. The current popular media use all this outside news it to their advantage. There is so much going on around me that it is overwhelming to try to pay attention to all the wrongdoing in the world. Maybe it is easier to focus on something “far away” then closer to home because there is less I can do about it other than bitch. The problem for me is trust and I don’t feel that is much trust to be had from my own government and the media, local or worldwide. It is all so skewed and controlled. The internet is a no go anymore also. Type something into Google and you’re only going to find popular media coverage articles and what Google decides is most relevant for your search.

Balance is key. Beware of what happens across the pond but don’t lose touch with happens across the street. Knowledge on all fronts is necessary because what happens outside of the US is a reflection of what is happening inside it. So much of what happens in Israel, Russian, Ukraine, Africa and more is part of a bigger picture that the US certainly has its little grubby hands in. I hope to become more in tune with the struggles of my own country. Media blackouts are rampant on local issues such as the many protest held for a multitude of reason here in the US. It is time for me to pay better attention and dig a little deeper into my own countries problems. Maybe if others do the same…we can fix ourselves then start to help those in strife in other countries. Who knows…maybe we are all so interconnected the days off healing oneself before healing others is behind us.

Here is the article that sparked today’s musing,

The Typical Household, Now Worth a Third Less

Israel and Gaza

Nothing beats passion to motivate me to start a blog post. Sorry I have been so slack but…it is what I do. Sometimes I need a little inspiration, here it is:

I wonder if people really know what it means when they post slogans and images stating, I support Israel”. I see this everywhere. Posting such a statement is meaningless. Blind empty slogans just fan the flame of intolerance and hate. I compare it to other blind slogans such as, “I support the troops”. Both statement are drowning in a pool of vague inconsistency. Do people actually know what they are supporting? Such a statement doesn’t even begin to address the complexity of this war or the many different facets a person could support in this terrible situation. What aspects are you actually supporting? Are they supporting war, killing, their religion all, none? Why aren’t as many people supporting Gaza? I hear many people say that Israel is our allies. Israel wants support for their cause and like all people who want to win will find allies in whoever will help. I am not taking sides. I believe Gaza is no different. If they had more support and forces, they would be doing the same as Israel. Both sides want to be right and they want to win. Both sides are murdered and tortured innocent people in the name of their religious freedom and politics. One country just has more power than the other does. Both countries believe that peace can only come to the victory not from resolution and compromise.

This religious war has been raging for far too long. All war is useless. A war over religion is an atrocity. Religion in the key factor in the numerous meaningless slogans shouting, “I support Israel”. The justification and reasoning behind supporting Israel for many Christians is the belief that Israeli people are Gods chosen people. Let us not dilute the fact that Gaza and the Palestinians are Muslim and so many Christian won’t support them, the “great evil”. The problem is that you cannot value one group of human’s lives over another. The Israeli people are not more deserving of justice or winning that war. Muslims are human just like Christians and all other humans’ of different faiths or lack thereof. All humans involved in the conflict eat, breathe, fear, love, have families and feel their cause is just. I get it though. It makes it so much easier to justify killing and war if you demonize them or downgrade a group of people to a lessor form of human. I will never understand the need to wage war, the need for people to justify war and killing. I cannot comprehend how people can look at another human being group of human to be less then themselves simply because of religious difference. Both sides are wrong and I sincerely wish that someone, some country or some group could step in and find a peaceful solution. How can one convince two countries who seem to be fighting simply because that is what they have been doing for years to compromise to find the humanity in each other? It is an undertaking of astronomical proportions to try to make both country empathize with the other and find the common ground needed to develop tolerance to their differences.

The last statement can be applied to most all human conflict and difference. So many people lack the ability to accept difference without looking down upon it and trying to convert another’s way of thinking to theirs. Humans are capably of wonderful things, of such compassion and goodness. The problem is that humans are also capable of horrible grotesque things based on intolerance and arrogance. I guess I will end this post here. I could go on for every about the human dynamic but then it just starts to go in circles.

Movie Review: Only Lovers Left Alive, American Hustle and Robot and Frank

It’s time for some movie reviews. I love movies! Movies and music keep me moving in through all aspects of life. Thought this would be a good addition to my musing. Some of these may be a day late and a dollar short but I am still going to give my two cents worth and maybe introduce someone to something they haven’t heard of.

Only Lovers Left Alive:

Keeping with the spirit of gothic vampires but with a twist, Only Lovers Left Alive is a very refreshing. All the actors in this movie deliver great performance especially Tilda Swinton and Tom Hiddleston who deliver a romantic haunting portrait of what eternity is like. The movie is dark and beautiful with tons of great imagery. I already know what people are going to say about this movie without even looking up other reviews, not enough depth of character. The characters in this movie have lots of beautiful depth. You just had to pay attention to the subtle hints, imagery and surroundings. Those little subtle hints the director/writer gave you to aid in building the layers these characters have. I like a movie where it is not all spelled out for you in black and white through narratives or drawn out dialogue. If you can’t read between the lines you’ll never be able to see all the wonderful shades of gray this movie has to offer. It is a calm cool movie that requires just sitting and observing the simple yet sophisticated scripted that is so visually laid out before you. The music in the movie is awesome. Can’t wait for the soundtrack!


American Hustle:

Love the curly 70’s hair that Bradley Cooper sports as well as the dedication that Christian Bale put into his role. Amy Adams stuns in her numerous plunging necklines. Other than that, the movie just did not entertain me. It seemed a lot longer than it needed to be. Do not get me wrong I like long movies…but only the kind that when it ends you did not realize it was over two hours. This movie dragged on and generally had a week story line. It had several seriously cool moments but those did not fill the gaps for me. The ending was very anticlimactic. I’m not saying it was bad but I’m not saying it was good. It was worth the one time watch but not a movie I will be purchasing or looking to watch again.


Robot and Frank:

This was a cute little film. It had its slow moments but overall enjoyable because the story was new and unique. I was into the characters and loved the connection that built between Frank and his caregiver robot. I love when a writer can make me fall for characters and root for them while giving the story a cute little twist. What else would a retired thief do with an intelligent robot but the obvious or maybe not? Good acting and had many familiar faces like Frank Langella, Susan Sarandon and Liv Tyler . It’s calm quiet and effective little indie movies bring me joy. Check it out!

The Shopping Cart Adventures

The Shopping cart adventures.

While browsing the isles in the grocery store I saw a woman with a small child sitting playing in a buggy making spaceship noises. Oddly, it is not something I see or at least don’t notice children doing much anymore. Children don’t need to entertain themselves using imagination. Now children sit in the buggy plugged into a phone or tab. Watching this child suddenly propelled me back in time, sending thoughts to a place that is full of imagination and wonder. A profound simple and magical memory of being a child danced its way into my mind. I remember as a child enjoying that weekly trip to the grocery store, a place of great adventure and magic, one where I could take a ride onto a spaceship, step into a portal to another universe or simply ride a magical boat set on a special voyage. My imagination could transform the shopping cart into anything and take me on any adventure. The bottom section of the shopping cart was the best place to be. In the bottom of the cart, I felt sheltered from the world. A shadowed place, in the basement of a carriage lay my own little world.

Maybe such childhood moments led to my teenage fascination with hijacking small shopping carts. During a long punk phase of life, some friends and I found it amusing to steal those small shopping carts you can get a pharmacies like CVS . I remember when I first saw one of those cute little shopping carts. I knew it had to be mine. This sparked the super-secret nighttime operations of stalking the pharmacy parking lot until one stray buggy was finally left alone in the dark parking lot, waiting helplessly to become our victim. The first kidnapping was rocky. We took my small Chevy Nova and it was not a quick drive by but an awkward drawn out situation of trying to figure out how to get the shopping cart into the back seat of my car. It would not fit in the trunk. We would not admit defeat. Luckily, in my small southern town there isn’t much threat of being busted in the well-lit and completely abandoned parking lot at 2 am. Most cops are sitting off somewhere together taking shit and avoiding work. Eventually we reigned supreme over our task and took the shopping cart. Over time, we gathered a decent amount of carts that served many varying purposes. I miss the days of the wonderful shopping cart adventures.